On my weekend walks around the lake, I often meet “day tourists.”
They come for an afternoon to enjoy the beauty of the lake.
What strikes me is how many wear distant, sad, or even angry expressions.
I often wondered: What would it take for these people to truly enjoy the moment?
One Saturday afternoon I decided to run a little test. I smiled and greeted every single person I met during my walk๐.
โจ99% of them smiled back, some even wished me a nice day. It was a simple reminder of the truth behind the Czech proverb: ๐ฒ “๐๐๐ค ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐ฌ๐ ๐ฏ๐จ๐ฅรก, ๐ญ๐๐ค ๐ฌ๐ ๐ณ ๐ฅ๐๐ฌ๐ ๐จ๐ณรฝ๐ฏรก” โ ๐๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ ๐๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐, ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ฌ ๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐. ๐ฒ
โSo, why do so many still believe that ๐ถ๐ป๐ฏ๐ฌ๐น๐บ must change first?
When clients come to me seeking changeโbetter employee engagement, more acceptance from the senior stakeholders, less conflict in teams, more family time, less stress, faster promotion (the list goes on)โI prompt them to start with reflection โจ
๐ ๐ป๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐?ย
We tend to “stay in our heads.” The business world has trained us to rationalize, explain, and control rather than to feel, listen, and reflect. However, those who have experienced true change understand that “no pain, no gain” is the formulaโand that means welcoming emotions into our lives.
That isnโt as easy as it sounds, as we learned early in life to judge our emotions based on the reactions of those around us.
๐here are ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ to inspire your reflection practice
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๐จ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐๐๐ซ๐ฆ๐๐ง/๐๐ง๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ก ๐๐ฎ๐๐ข๐๐ง๐๐: ‘๐พ๐๐ ๐ฝ๐๐รค๐๐
๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐’ by Ingeborg Dietz & Thomas Dietz. Written by highly experienced coaches, this book offers a great mix of methodology and practical exercises, particularly impactful when paired with regular coaching sessions. Itโs packed with real-life examples for leaders, coaches, and therapists interested in the dynamics of the Internal Family System (IFS) and in discovering how to “open new doors” by accepting and embracing all parts of our personality.
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๐จ๐ซ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ซ ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ฅ๐๐๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ฌ๐ฒ๐๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ: โ๐ป๐๐ ๐ณ๐๐๐
๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ช๐๐๐๐โ by the well-known author and INSEAD professor Manfred Kets de Vries explores the “inner theater” of leaders, diving into unconscious motivations, emotional intelligence, and the relational contexts that shape leadership styles. You’ll likely meet your boss, team, family members or even yourself in its many case studies.
๐ก Books are invaluable (I love them!), but they canโt replace the transformative mirroring effect of an experienced coach.ย
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